Anger is a secondary emotion. Anger is what comes out when we try to mask our true feelings. From personal experience, I know when I look deeper down into myself when I'm angry, I realize my true feelings can be confusion, jealousy, regret, or disappointment. When I begin to feel anger, I try to take a step back, examine the situation, and try to realize my true feelings; then go from there.
Anger is mean, aggressive, and irreparable. Upon my deeper research of "anger" I found this story and I feel it will explain "anger", better than I could.
Once upon a time, there was a young boy with a very bad temper. To teach the boy a lesson, his father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper he must hammer a nail into their wooden fence.
On the first day of this lesson, the little boy had driven 26 nails into the fence. That's how angry he was! Over the next few weeks, the boy began to control his temper. And so he hammered fewer and fewer nails into the fence. The day finally came when the boy didn't lose his temper, not even one. He was so proud of himself. He couldn't wait to tell his father.
Pleased, his father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he could hold his temper. Several weeks went by and soon the boy was able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. Then the father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. "You have done very well, my son," he smiled. "But look at all the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave permanent scars just like these. And no matter how many times you say you're sorry, the wounds will still be there."
"You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger. Let go of your anger."
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