"No one can validate you enough to make it last. Outside approval feels great but true self-worth lies in the ability to give it to yourself."
What is your worth? How do you value yourself? Different from self-esteem, self-worth is about who you are, not about what you do. Those who determine their self-worth on external factors lead more stressful lives and risk issues with their mental health. But for those who determine their self-worth on internal factors lead happier, fuller lives. While real accomplishments are wonderful and should be celebrated, your self-worth should focus more on your unique qualities.
"You cannot pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself first."
Take this moment while I'm writing the first draft of this post. It is nearly midnight on a Sunday. I'm tired and I have to teach yoga in the morning. But I stay awake writing and stressing myself over a self-imposed deadline.
When we are stressed, self-care is the first thing to go; which only just makes things worse. Abandoning essentials like sleep, meals, and physical activity are damaging to your mind and body. Self-care isn't a reward. It isn’t something we treat ourselves to when we’ve finished our to-do list. It should be one of you highest priorities.
"When you do talk about yourself, to talk to yourself… try to picture your talking to your own daughter or your younger sister. Because you would tell your younger sister or your daughter that she is beautiful, and you wouldn't be lying. Because she is. And so are you" - Amy Poehler
Self-talk is not discussed enough. We hear a lot about self-worth and self-care, but self-talk is it's own animal. The things we say to ourselves, about ourselves can be meaner then anything we would say aloud. It is hard to identify in a friend because we don't know what someone is thinking. For some people, these thoughts are pronounced and overwhelming, and they are hard to avoid. We need to go easy on ourselves, and remember we are just trying our best.
"Worry about loving yourself, instead of loving the idea of other people loving you."
To start, abandon this idea that self-love means you're selfish. Doing things for yourself and taking care of yourself is wonderful. We There is nothing wrong with loving who you are, flaws included. This is life. Life isn't about being perfect. It isn't about living happily ever after. It's about working on yourself, finding yourself, and loving yourself . It's a simple idea, but so hard to achieve.
Please feel free to join me as we further explore our selves throughout August at Corepower Yoga.
As always, thank you for reading, XO-